Thursday, February 12, 2009


I'm not sure where I stand on fertility treatment. I know as a Catholic I'm SUPPOSED to have an issue with it. I know that I thank God daily that I was able to have 4 beautiful children on my own. I can't say that if I had problems conceiving that I wouldn't have sought outside help. And, it might or might not surprise you that I used to think about over-population. My husband is a card-carrying Sierra club member that used to want to have just 2 children. Well, before we ACTUALLY HAD children. Then, he thought 3 or 4 wasn't going to have catastrophic consequences on our planet.

I'm surprised and saddened at the outrage people are feeling towards the woman that just had octuplets. She's in hiding now because of death threats. Seriously people! She didn't KILL 14 children!!! She gave birth to 14 children. I think that this is a perfect example of the rampant "nose-in-everyone's-business, opinion-on-everything" disease plaquing our society. How much time is wasted every day with people thinking about, commenting on, or judging other people? I bet the same amount of time we waste wishing our asses were smaller.

Here is what I do:

I wake up in the morning and take care of my kids.
I work on my business when the kids are occupied, playing, sleeping, etc.
I do charity work as the need arises.
I spend time with my husband, sisters, or good friends in the evenings.
I do not watch a lot of television.
I do NOT read tabloids or People, because I don't CARE what celebrities do.

That's it. And, I try really hard not to judge or gossip about other people. I don't tell people what they should or should not do. I don't tell them what I think God expects of them. They can seek that out for themselves and have THAT convo with God after they die. I have no hate in my heart. I sleep well at night. People like me. I like them. I have peace.


Erika said...

Amen, Sister!

The Musings of The Momma said...

What Erika said! That's just what I was thinking! I can't say I'm in complete agreement of having 14 kids and no job, but you know what... leave the poor woman alone!

ElegantSnobbery said...

I've heard snippets of the story here and there... but really I've just got to many stresses in my own life to take the time to stress out about someone else's just based on things I've heard on TV or read in the Etsy forums.

I think that as long as the kids are happy and healthy, whats the problem??

Leah said...

There's really no need for people to spend SO MUCH of their energy deciding what's right for other people. (Also - I had no idea Catholics were against fertility treatments - is that because sometimes it results in abortions?)

earth baby said...

I hated even taking the time to address this, but I've been overwhelmed with tweets linking stories about her saying "OMG! Can you believe this woman!!" And, every time I turn on the TV, they're talking about her...and it's on my news page when I sign on the's inescapable!

Leah, I'm not sure the reason Catholics are against it....probably the whole "circumventing God" thing? And, the "what to do with the unused embryos" thing? I've not looked into it, because it (happily) doesn't affect me. I should ask someone though...good question.

Allie said...

Awesome post! I am also Catholic, and a mother of four - thankfully. Very well expressed and written.